.99 now or $3.99 at launch


Is this just some crappy scam? 
nope

Here's the deal: The more pre-orders an indie has the higher on the list Amazon puts us, so when someone wants to read a hot mystery with hot guys in it, those who get pre-orders end up on page 1 and the rest of us end up in Loserville. 

Also, if you read this, you might like it and want to read the first two books. So, I make like .35 every time someone buys a .99 title. But I want to find my audience, I want whoever likes MM BDSM and police procedural crime stories to find me! 
So here, order this - c'mon, you got a buck, i know you do!                      Ugh. Hard sells are exhausting. But I have links!                                   To EXCERPTS FROM DANCING MEN! Not little ones on the ads, long ones about the mystery and the boys getting back together - or - maybe not - but still ... pretty good.

If you fear spoilery like plague fear, maybe skip. 

I had more but next time. I just finished the pre last draft first draftish version and I really need to clean my damned kitchen. 

addi   

 
 

SWEEPSTAKES RESULTS


SWEEPSTAKES RESULTS:

 CONTEST LEGALISH STUFF:

Three winners, all prizes delivered but Dancing Men, which will be sent at launch. Here they are, THE WINNERS, anonymity protected - I hope. CONGRATS GUYS!

1st jillib*****@***mail.com 
2nd lnlam*****@***mail.com 
3rd dflin*****@***line.net

And thanks so much to everyone who entered and supported my 1st giveaway. A special thanks to the redoubtable Kimberly DB Sewald whose constant support gives me the energy to continue the long slog of indie authorship.


addi-



DOMINANT: real or fake?





The Dominant’s Guide is a blog that mostly republishes the writings of Mistress Steele, aka F.R.R. Mallory who wrote Extreme Space, The Domination and Submission Handbook



There are some excellent articles on The Dominant Guide site and I rarely disagree with the Domme, but I think she’s jumped a few sharks with her post about “meretricious” Doms:


The Meretricious Dominant mimic’s the actions, attitudes and behaviors of others in order to lure people into positions of vulnerability primarily for cheap, easy sex with a kink twist.

I’m fairly certain manipulating others for the purpose of cheap, easy sex is a kind of universal thing and not really a function of being Dominant, meretricious or otherwise. But what’s she talking about here? What exactly is a “meretricious” Dom?

Today within the D/s lifestyle we see many ‘scheduled’ Dominants. These are the dominants who selectively schedule specific time periods to ‘be’ dominant. Which leads the observer to question what that person ‘is’ the rest of the time….

… Presenting this ‘temporary’ status as real status is the point where pretense, falsehood and insincerity come into play.

That they are unable to sustain dominant presence is often quite evident when one looks at their daily lives. Often there will be little or no other areas within their lives that they are in control of in any appreciable way.

I’ll counter this by looking at the other side, the submissive. A submissive in private or at a club can also be a judge, a business owner a cop or a football coach. That is, they dominate others quite effectively and comfortably in the parts of their lives that call for that.

But they also are people who derive deep satisfaction from surrendering themselves.
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They don’t “sustain” a submissive presence. They can be as Alpha as anyone else. In other words, they “schedule” a time to express their submission in a way appropriate to their lives. Which is not when they have to rip a linebacker a new asshole for dropping an intercepted pass.

Why would it be different for a Dominant, who can be someone who avoids conflict and confrontation and would rather go along and get along?

You aren’t a “real” Dom because you control all aspects of your life. You are a real Dom when you interact with a sub in ways that satisfy the sub and you. And you can certainly choose to only do that during “playtime.” 

There is also, BTW, “neutral.” It isn’t necessary to dominate a server at a coffeeshop or submit to a friend while shopping. No one has to “be” a thing in a way another defines for them.

As for this:

Often there will be little or no other areas within their lives that they are in control of in any appreciable way.

It’s all an illusion, this control people think they have. It just means a section of rebar hasn’t flown off a truck on the highway to crash through their windshield and blind them. They don’t have their cancer diagnosis. Their high schooler didn’t run off with a college kid. Their stock didn’t tank. They don’t have bedbugs.

Yet.  

People are endlessly complex. And rainbows have no edges.
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The Weeping Writer

It seems to take all my time, just the writing and now the promoing. A lot of times, I don't read the reviews or see the posts. Today, I came across this from a reader of Matchstick:


Just at this moment you read a book that shook your world. That makes you feel so much that your real life is affected. There are not many books that do that. To a few you will remember forever. The rest is lost on the highway of life.

This here is one of the special ones. At least for me.

So, I'm all teary. I love that people think (except for the typos) that I write well. That Hunt and Cam are a great couple. That the sex is hot. That the mystery is good. I love all of that. The more people like it, the more I want to write it.

But this person said it mattered to her that I wrote. So I don't need any more prizes.

And I'll keep recording Hunt and Cam's lives and writing the heat and exploring the mystery and hope more readers find the books and love them. And I hope something else happens that matters to someone while I do that. 

It matters that you are here, my friends and readers. That you exist, doing what you do as well as you can. You almost never know when you've touched someone. I think that might be faith.

Take care,

addi-